Where Does Your Pride Come From Part III

March 14th, 2009

Where Does Your Pride Come From?
Part III

For the last few blogs I have been talking about the origin of Internalized Homophobia and how it manifests in each of our lives. What does all this mean in terms of Hypnotherapy , NLP, & Mindfulness?
Your brain is an incredibly sophisticated piece of equipment. In fact it is said to be so sophisticated that no computer will ever match it’s ability to think and reason.
Like a computer it receives information through the central nervous system, translates it into electro – chemical bits of vibrating bytes, down loads it into our hard drive, and has been doing so from the moment we are first born. According to some theories this process has been going on for several months before our birth.
Think of your mind as having three different components, the conscious, the brain, and the subconscious.
Our Conscious is comprised of all our central nervous system, our five senses and possibly more. In this way we download every piece of information that we are ever exposed to. From birth to puberty (about 11 – 13) we take in this information accept it all without any analysis. Much like a keyboard on a computer, the Conscious records every bit of information and imprints it onto the physical mass of cells and tissues that we call the Brain.
The Brain, like a hard drive on a computer, stores the information for future playback in the form of neuro firing patterns, electro – chemical bits of information that travel along the pathways producing behaviors that make up our personality. Since we simply absorb this worldly input and stimulus, it all contributes to what becomes our agreements, our blueprint, our personal individual road map of reality. Many of these beliefs are woefully defined by merely a same gender attraction which must therefore, be the sole primary motivation of our lives. From the age of about 13 on we start developing the capacity to analyze the information that we receive. Many of those pieces of information, our original agreements, become what many people call our inner child. In the LGBTQ community the majority of us start out with false beliefs and agreements about who and what we are. We often accept agreements that we are sinners moral deviates, and less than our straight companions. These thoughts and ideas becoming our core beliefs, and ultimately contribute to internalized homophobia.
One of many human challenges is that we identify with our bodies, and our thoughts and feelings as the ultimate truth of who we really are. This is simply not so. We are that which has a body; we that which possesses and creates thoughts and feelings but we are not these things. We came to believe that our value is defined by the external.
We strive to create success. We can pull ourselves up, get a good career, make a good living, and take fabulous vacations, but none of that is going to matter until we release our false beliefs and agreements.
Finally the subconscious, vast in scope, truly and simply tailors our experiences to its programming. Like what we see on the screen of our computers, the things we manifest in our lives our actions and more importantly perhaps, our reactions and responses to the people, situations, and circumstances of our daily lives is dictated by our deepest core beliefs.
It is interesting to note that the subconscious processes off of images in our mind. If I were to ask you, describe your mother, would you see a paragraph in your mind that says, “my mother is 72 years old, 5’ 8”, 165 lbs, reddish blonde hair, etc.”. or would you see an image of your mother, a picture in your mind of what she looks like and a feeling she evokes.
We can rationalize, we can minimize, we can deny our agreements each & every moment of every day. But until we face our innermost core beliefs, we will always end up continuing down that old familiar path.
Utilizing the power of our brains with hypnosis, you can release yourself from the debilitating trap of old beliefs, your images, and old feelings. Foundations Hypnosis Seattle – Bellevue uses a technique called Emotional Release Therapy that can actually cut the emotional ties, at a very deep level, to those old images and agreements. Once those ties are cut you are able to rebuild a crumbling negative foundation with a strong positive one, a foundation that allows you to accept yourself as A PERFECT WHOLE & COMPLETE HUMAN BEING who just happens to be a member of the GBLTQ community!!!!
As a community as far as we’ve come, we’re still exposed to a multiplicity of challenges on various fronts.
We are each armed with a wondrous and amazing and mighty tool, our brain. This tool can be either a merciless master or a wonderful servant and we each absolutely possess the power to master this tool and live the life of our dreams.

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Where Does Your Pride Come From Part II

March 10th, 2009

Where Does Your Pride Come From
Part II
Flash forward to 2009. I have worked in the GBLTQ community for over twenty years, working as a Hypnotherapist, and addiction studies specialist. For the first eleven years I worked in private practice as a Hypnotherapist while working with chemical dependency agencies, a medically based smoking cessation program, and in outreach positions for HIV, and AIDS clientele. I followed that with nine years as the Clinical Coordinator for Project NEON, first at Stonewall Recovery Services, and later at Seattle Counseling Services.
Project NEON works with Gay & Bi-Sexual Men who inject Crystal Methamphetamine. When I first came to the program, I worked with both components of the program, the Peer Education component, (having current users of Meth distribute information resources, needles, condoms, etc., and the clinical portion of the program which deals with clients who wish to either cut down or stop their use of the drug).
Within a few years I was spending the majority of my time developing and growing the clinical portion of the program, utilizing the combination of my skills as a Hypnotherapist, Neuro Linguistic Programmer, Time Line Therapist, and Chemical Dependency Counselor.
It was during this time that I really began exploring why our community has been so heavily affected by drugs and alcohol. The answers I came up with, while not new, helped me refine a method that utilizes the incredible energy of the brain, through Hypnotherapy, NLP, and Mindfulness to resolve those issues.
What I have come to realize is that drug abuse, & addiction in the GBLTQ community comes primarily as a response regarding our original beliefs / agreements about ourselves, our deeply internalized messages about our sexual identity, and our own personal internalized homophobia.
As I mentioned before, Internalized Homophobia, does not always manifest in the obvious “I hate myself” type beliefs or behaviors, but it does manifest due to deep core beliefs we were taught and that we absorbed. All of these deep core beliefs are based in fear and ignorance.
What kind of messages have you subconsciously accepted and agreed to about what it meant to be GBLTQ while you were growing up? How many times were you told over and over again that you are sick, perverted, less than, need to change, not worthy of being in a recognized loving relationship, and in many cases you found yourself abused, used, and treated less than by your straight friends & associates? Even when those straight friends and associates are making jokes and unkind remarks about the gay community, these jokes and remarks are touching deep core wounds and beliefs we have held about ourselves for many years. As we begin to recognize these messages, we realize that we are not alone, and that we have all been effected by similar messages in some way or another.
Think about the messages from movies, books, television, parents, churches, schools, and our straight friends as we are growing up. How many of us can recall sitting down and having a talk with Mom or Dad, and being told that some day we would meet a nice girl, or boy, (someone of the same sex), and we would fall in love and get married. I would hazard to say that not many of us had this kind of interaction. Instead I can give you examples of how many of us were on the school playground, or in the gym locker room, and the words, faggot, dyke or queer, were mercilessly thrown at us by those that we considered our peers. At a young age it hurts, as we get older it still hurts, only know we have learned to play the game and pretend that it is OK. And no matter what age, it leaves an incredibly deep scar. For the rest of our life we carry with us the deep belief that we are less than our friends simply because of our sexual orientation.
As we get older some of us bottle up those feelings, they become our constant companion, and our worst enemy. They feed off of daily news items of hate crimes, or religious slander, political bigotry agendas, Sometimes the hardest issue to deal with is the rejection of our own family because of sexual orientation. Some of us manifest these feelings in a life in which we remain in the closet, never feeling like we can be your true self, always having to hide our feelings, afraid that we will be rejected by those who “love” us. Some us manifest these internalized feelings in bold and in your face identities that cause us to become activist, or champions of the community, drag queens, leather kings, etc., (O.K. so being an activist, being a drag queen, being a leather king, etc. can be argued as appropriate paths that we have created / manifested for ourselves), BUT too even have to manifest a particular role that we now identify with, narrows us, and hides much of what is true about us.
Everyone of us needs, & deserves to be accepted and valued, for who we truly are, whether that is Gay or Straight. This kind of acceptance and value creates feelings of self confidence, self esteem, and self worth. As A Gay or Lesbian youth we learn early to suppress our thoughts and our feelings. We learn through subtle and not so subtle messages that it is not right – or acceptable – to be who we really are, to have sexual feelings toward members of our own gender. We learn that to admit to such feelings will cause us pain, humiliation, torture, and even death.
In one such case a young boy was attempting to come to grips with his homosexuality, and felt that it was time to confront his father with the revelation. The father’s response was less than kind. The youth made the mistake of telling his father on the second story of the family home. The father became so enraged that he threw his son from the window. Luckily the youth experienced only a broken leg. As it was the mental damage went much deeper than a broken bone.
In my own case, I began to come to grips with my homosexual feelings at a young age. I had a friend whom I thought I could trust with my life. We had been buddies since the fourth grade. Since he had moved away to an adjoining town. I sat down & wrote him a letter telling him I needed to talk, the talk was less than successful. I had only superficial contact with my best buddy since that time and he felt it necessary to tell everyone he could to stay away from the queer. Ironically I found out years later that this buddy had committed suicide amidst rumors of his own homosexuality.
These early experiences create core beliefs, core agreements, about who we are now, and how we fit into society. These become the foundations of our ego. Without always conscious awareness, we struggle against these agreements, while we continue to struggle against the institutional societal discrimination that hits us every day. Some examples are the hate crimes that are perpetrated against people in our community, or the ongoing struggle to gain the basic rights enjoyed by straight couples, toward legally recognized same sex marriage / partnerships. Despite the fact that many same sex partnerships last as long as or longer then many straight marriages. Our basic rights such as housing, employment & privacy are constantly being legally threatened thanks to such homophobic groups such as fundamentalist and, Ex-Gay ministries, etc.
Violent attacks against the GBLTQ community are often excused as the fault of the victim being a sexual deviants.

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Where Does Your Pride Come From?Part I

February 19th, 2009

Foundations Hypnosis
Where Does Your Pride Come From?
Part I

We each have our own understanding or interpretation of the meaning of the phrase – Internalized Homophobia. To some of us it means a straight person who has a deep hatred of anything and everything that has to do with homosexuality. For some it means the deep inner feelings of self loathing that a homosexual has towards themselves. In most cases people immediately think of some kind of fear and or loathing regarding the gay community.
While this may be true, Internalized Homophobia does not always manifest itself in obvious ways. During a discussion on the subject of Internalized Homophobia in one of the Recovery Groups that I facilitated, one of the members of the group declared that they did not have internalized homophobia, that they were proud to be gay, and they held no deep seated hatred of their sexuality. When I asked the group member to tell me more about that, to tell me what theIr feelings toward being gay are, and how do they act upon those feelings, I got an ear full.
When I was in high school, I was very out about my sexuality. I did not care who knew I was gay, I wanted to make sure that everyone knew, and if I made anyone uncomfortable, then that was their issue not mine.
I paused, smiled, and explained that all of our feelings are internal. Every image every thought, every feeling that we have, all come from inside of our selves, thus the word Internal.
Sure, the group member said, but what about being homophobic, I am not afraid, or hateful towards myself for being gay.
“Then why did you feel the need to announce your sexuality to everyone around you, whether they were comfortable with it or not?”
“We have spent all of our lives having to hide ourselves! Why shouldn’t we be able to make people uncomfortable the way they made us uncomfortable?”
“I thought you told me, you were proud to be gay, how can something that you are proud of make you uncomfortable?”
The group member hesitated, unsure of how to answer.
The actually manifestations of Internalized Homophobia show up in many forms and many ways, many social masks and identities. It may indeed show up in the simplistic form of “I hate all fags!” It may show up in the form of a member of the GBLTQ community trying desperately to hide their sexuality through the façade of a straight marriage, it may show up in the form of a gay youth committing suicide because they can’t face having to deal with being different, or loosing the love and respect of their peers, and family. It may even show up in the form of a member of the GBLTQ community becoming very aggressive and in your face about who they are. All of these identities spring from feelings we have about who we are, and the feelings about who we are, all had their origins in our upbringing, or as Don Migual Ruiz; author of the Four Agreements; puts it, our domestication. I simply put it under the heading of internalized homophobia.
I want you to think, for just a moment, about your social mask, about your gay identity. Are you out to friends, to family, at work? Do you proudly proclaim your sexuality, do participate in Gay Pride Rallies, or do you keep quiet, and keep yourself in the closet, unwilling or afraid to let your friends and family know who you really are? Are either of these approaches wrong, or are they simply ways of dealing with a very tough reality in our society?
Recently, through such movies as The Secret, people have been told that we create the circumstances of our lives, based upon the images and thoughts that we have in our heads. Given that this is true, I want you to think about it means to be a member of the GLBTQ community? What are the images you have of yourself and of other members of your community?
Do you think of fabulous parties, gay night clubs, gay pride parades, rainbow flags, pink triangles, proposition 8, don’t ask don’t tell, Queer Eye for the Straight Guy? What images come to mind when you think of the GBLTQ community and your place in it. What was your first and earliest memory of what it meant to be gay?
I can tell you for myself that my first memory of what it meant to be gay, came from a James Bond film that I saw when I was about eight years old. I was not conscious of all of the implications, but I do recall that there were two guys skipping hand and hand through a desert terrain, laughing and happy after they had just blown up a jet causing it to crash, killing many innocent passengers. Without knowing why, that memory haunted me for many years. I was given an image, I was socialized, or domesticated to think and feel about homosexuals, about myself, as someone who would be happy about killing and destruction. Not the most appropriate thing to begin to believe about myself. As I grew up I was given more messages about who I was as a gay man. I was to shunned, I was to be the butt of locker room jokes, my life was to be defined by the fact that I was and am attracted to other males. My own internalized homophobia was festering and seething with self loathing. How I would deal with that self loathing was going to be as unique and individual as everyone else in my community. Sometimes the manifestation, the identity would take on very familiar patterns, many similarities with my GBLTQ family members, and thus was born the GBLTQ community.
What is your social mask, your social identity? Where do you fit into your community?

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Hypnosis is Not a Magic Bullet

February 9th, 2009

DL Scott CtHA / AASD / CDC

One of the things that always amazes me is when a client calls for the first time,
explains how they want to come in and be cured of this issue or that. issue, but they want it done within a space of one session. Recently I had a mental health counselor ask me if I could put him under and take care of an issue he has been dealing with for years, The Fear of Flying. He didn’t want to talk with anyone about it, he didn’t want to go through therapy about it, he simply wanted to be put into a state of hypnosis and be cured of his Fear. It shows the true lack of understanding not just among lay people but also among so called professionals when it comes to how the brain works.
First off let me say, although Hypnosis can do some incredible things, it is not a magic bullet, it is not some dark mysterious power that will put the client to sleep and them cure them all of all their ills by the time they wake up.
With that said, what is hypnosis? Hypnosis is a state of focused concentration, a state of focused awareness. When a trained therapist, such as myself, guides a client into a state of altered consciousness, the actually truth is that we are not creating anything, we are not putting the client into some magical state, we are simply helping the client to shift their awareness from one thing to another.
When we are focused on something, what does that really mean? It means that our brains are filled with images and pictures of what ever is the object of focus.
Think about that, when you are experiencing any emotion, whether that be anxiety about something, such as a fear or anxiety of flying, or pure joy, happiness, where are those emotions coming from? Your emotions spring from the images that you hold in your brain. What ever image you focus on, that will be the basis for your state of emotion. People who experience a Fear of Flying, experience that fear because when they think about flying, their attention is on what might happen while flying, and in this case it means that your brain is filled with images and pictures of everything bad that may happen.
The brain does not know the difference between a real or imagined event. When you are thinking about something, when you have an image of an event in your brain, the same neurons and neuron – firing patterns are occurring as though the event is taking place outside of the brain. That is the beauty and the simplicity of hypnosis, by utilizing the images that we have in our brains already, you can change your reactions, your behavior, your patterns of belief, and accomplish seeming miracles.
There are many effects of hypnosis, and altered states of consciousness that are considered fantastic and beyond belief. Take the idea of fire walking, or walking on beds of broken glass while barefoot. In both cases the feet are completely unharmed, neither a burn nor a scratch will appear. This effect comes from control of the body through control of the images in the brain.
The images we focus on can cause us stress, unhappiness, pain, or on the other end of the spectrum, pleasure, joy, and elation.
Try a little experiment. I want you to close your eyes and think of an event that made you feel scared or uncomfortable. The event might be something that made you actually tremble with negative emotion. When you are done with that, I want you to open your eyes. Think about the images of that event, were they clear, bright, sharp, focused, big, in vivid color?
Now I want you to close your eyes again, and think about that event. Only this time I want you to change the image(s). I want you to retain the same image(s) only this time I want you to make the images in black and white, make them small, dull, fuzzy, and even add silly music to them, something like circus music. Now open your eyes again, and I want you to think about how you are feeling about the event this time, as compared to the first time.
You have just used a very simple hypnotic technique in which you recoded the images in your brain, to change the emotional response. You have not gotten rid of the images, nor have you wiped out the memories, but you have recoded the image(s) and changed the fear or anxiety that you once felt about the event.
This type of technique works well, it works fast, and it is very effective, and if that was all there was to it, then my interactions with clients would be so much easier, but as with most things in life, there is more to it then just that.
I once heard a very good analogy of the process put in the following terms. If you were to attempt to explain to alien from another world where you got a cup of water, and you simply tell them, you go over to the Fawcett, hold the cup under the spout, turn the knob, and presto, you get a cup full of water, you would only be explaining a part of the process. You left out the whole piece about the plumbing behind the Fawcett, the thousands of pipes that carry the water from the water treatment plant, and on, and on, and on. The same can be said for how the magic of hypnosis really works.
As a clinician for the last 20 years working in the more traditional fields of Chemical Dependency and Mental Health, I have learned the value of clearing up old energy, letting go of old beliefs, and ideas, while incorporating a new idea or belief. Another good analogy is to think of waxing down your car. You certainly would not want to put a new coat of wax on it without giving the car a good cleaning, taking away the layer of dirt and grime that you have picked up while traveling along the road.
The human brain works in much the same way. You have traveled many years in your life, and before you can successfully incorporate a layer of new beliefs, you would do well to start letting go of the old beliefs, release the old energy that have been keeping you stuck going in the same direction. This process does not take an enormous amount of time. Unlike conventional therapy, Foundations Hypnosis Seattle – Bellevue can help you release old bits of emotional baggage, inappropriate belief systems, within a matter of just a few sessions, once this is accomplished then the new beliefs, the new layer of energy can be successfully incorporated into your life.
We are the creators of our life circumstances. Now when we first hear this we are prone to get defensive and shoot back with, why would I have created the circumstances of my life in this way? Why would I have put myself in this type of relationship, or put myself into this lousy job, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. The truth is that we have invited in, or in someway created the circumstances of our daily life, through our focus of attention, through the images that we carry in our brains.
Generally we are not aware of this process, and the images we keep in the forefront of our brains are based on fears, old emotional wounds that we are so traumatized by that they become the script that we live by. We constantly focus on these images, even we think that we are trying to remember them so as not to repeat the same events, but we are none the less focused on these images and they doom us to keep creating, recreating, and experiencing the same behaviors over and over again.
When you use the powerful technique of hypnosis to recode old images, and create new images in your brain, these images help to instill a new behavior, or belief into your life. The problem is, that just like the dirt that keeps working its way up through the new coat of wax, the old issues often times will resurface and continue to create havoc in your life.
One of the things that hypnosis does, and does quite well, is to put you into a state of altered consciousness in which the critical brain is lessened, and powerful, positive ideas are more easily instilled into the brain. (It is important to note here that the key word is positive, the subconscious is designed in such a way that it is constantly trying to protect and promote you, it will not accept what it deems as harmful or negative ideas and beliefs while in the altered state of hypnosis).
As I try to explain to clients, you can be put into the state of hypnosis, you can be given as many suggestions as possible concerning whatever new behavior you would like to incorporate into you life, but if you don’t clear out the old inappropriate energy / emotion first, the effect will not last. Just like that new wax job on a car that has not been cleaned, it might look OK for a little while, but the old dirt and grime well eventually just come right back through. These old images, beliefs, and thoughts are often what cause prolonged stress in your life.
When we allow ourselves to remain under the effects of prolonged stress we weaken the immune system and open ourselves up to sickness and disease. What a help it would be if we just took a few minutes each day and practice simple relaxation or self hypnotic exercises to reverse the effect of the stress.
Looking more directly at the body / brain connection, is it any surprise that someone who has feelings of low self worth and esteem seem to experience lower energy, lower immune response, and actual occurrences of specific illness according to constant messages, and corresponding images they are focused on, i.e. “I am so sick of always having to deal with rude and pushy people,” repeated several times over the course of many days the brain will take the message, “I am so sick”, and translate this into an actual physical sickness in the body.
Eventually the sickness well probably have to be taken care of on a physical level, costing the person time, money, and excessive wear and tear to the body. You see we are in control of the body through our brain, we just don’t recognize this and so the incredible power of our brain goes unchecked, undirected.
You may notice that I have been using the term body / brain connection, instead of body / mind connection. What the power of suggestion does is to help you implant suggestions into the physical brain itself, it is then up to the mind, that controlling force behind the mechanical brain, to direct the use of those suggestions. If you were to put in brand new shinny positive suggestions over the top of old, inappropriate, negative, ideas, which do think would last. The negative ideas have been pilling up for years, building in strength and in numbers. The new suggestions, although they may be planted deeply and firmly will have a rough time of growing in strength and numbers if they are overwhelmed, much like a healthy plant being strangled by a garden of weeds, this is what happens when the old ideas that have never properly been gotten rid of subtly strangle the new ideas.
Through out the years I have worked with a wide range of complaints, from phobias and anxieties, such as the fear of flying, and addictions, such as nicotine, alcohol, and Crystal Methamphetamine, to issues of low self worth and esteem, procrastination, weight control, etc. In each case the successful client has been the one who does the necessary work of clearing out the old foundational beliefs, while putting in the new beliefs, and ideas that they want to incorporate into their lives.
A good example would be that of the smoker who claims that they want to quit smoking. I have had people who come in and expect to be put into the hypnotic state of consciousness, be given a few positive suggestions about not smoking anymore and then leaving, never having the desire to smoke again.
I can tell you from experience that it does not work this way. In most cases where a person is told they can be made to quit smoking in one session, the person is usually desiring a smoke by the time their leave the office, or within a few hours. In those rare cases where someone does quit with just one session, they have already resolved that they are no longer going to smoke, the benefits of not smoking have become so important to them that they have already released the idea of whatever benefits they received from the smoking in the first place. When I have someone come to me for not smoking I can usually tell by the second or third session whether this is going to be the time that they quit. If the client is willing to release the old belief patterns of the benefits they get from their addiction, if the client is willing to incorporate new activities into their daily life to replace the old addictive activity, (such things as a few weeks of daily deep breathing exercises, or a few weeks of listening to a reinforcement hypnosis CD), then I am certain that the prep work is being taken seriously, and so the new suggestions will have fertile soil to be planted in.
So is hypnosis some mysterious magic bullet, like the mental health counselor at the beginning of this article had hoped or is a way of effectively cleaning up old images and thoughts that create various states of emotions in the body?
The next time someone tells you that they can put you to sleep and then cure you of what ever ails you, I hope you will remember, that there is no magic solution to life’s problems, and there is no magic bullet.

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Foundations Hypnosis Seattle (E.R.T.)

February 5th, 2009

Emotional Release Therapy

An Alternative Approach and Tool

In

Recovery from Chemical Addiction

By
DLScott CtHA / CDP
www.dlscottpersonalenergymastery.com
dlscott2@comcast.net

When someone talks to you about being an addict, just what is it that they are talking about? Are they talking about being addicted to some chemical substance, such as alcohol or cigarettes or maybe a harder drug like heroin? Are they trying to label you with some diagnosis from the DSMR III, so you can be classified and treated according to the standards of today’s industry? Or are they talking about something deeper, are they talking about the fact that you are actually addicted to the emotions or feelings produced by the intake of the drug?
A little discussed secret among Chemical Dependency Professionals is that studies have shown that most people, who enter into recovery from substance abuse, do so on their own without the assistance of a traditional treatment program. Now that flies in the face of traditional wisdom, and the prevailing culture of Chemical Dependency Treatment, but it is none the less true. In an article by Karen Schweitzer, (Love to Know Recovery, Drug Addiction Treatment) it is sited that there is no treatment program in existence that is right for everyone. A treatment program should address an individual’s needs and feelings as well as the drug addiction.
In working with clients in the chemical dependency field, there are a few givens that I have discovered that can enhance a person’s ability to stop the use of their drug of choice.
First off I would like to suspend the argument about whether Drug Addiction is a disease or not. We can write hundreds and hundreds of pages upon this argument, and still not agree on the answer. Whether Chemical Dependency is an actual disease or not, is not the issue. The Issue is that Chemical Dependency affects people in such a way that it mimics, or produces some of the symptoms of a disease.
The disease concept of Chemical Dependency is the basis of most standard methods of treatment, and are also embraced by such programs as the 12 step model. According to statistics generated by 12 step programs the success rate of this model ranges anywhere from 5% to 50%. What is not mentioned is that the statistics are based on a lifelong commitment to a 12 step program. This is one of the major complaints of people who do not wish to be tied to a program for the rest of their lives. Many clients complain that they are expected to exchange one habit, “drug use” for another habit, “lifelong 12 step attendance”.
So for the sake of this article, let us agree that it is actually the feelings created by the use of drugs that we become addicted to, the medium of the drug is just the way to experience these feelings. Let’s face it, if you didn’t get a benefit out of our chemical use, you would not continue to use the chemical. Some of the benefits for most people include:
1) Using drugs creates an avoidance of uncomfortable feelings, (even the avoidance of feelings is still a type of feeling in the body, it is called numbness).
2) Using drugs creates a happy feeling.
3) Using drugs causes us to feel more relaxed,
4) Using drugs causes us to feel more social in some situations.
When someone decides to stop using their drug of choice it is usually because the
consequences begin to outweigh the benefits, i.e. legal issues, job issues, relationship issues, health issues, to name a few.
The prevailing belief is that the primary concern is to stop the use of the drug, and the consequences will stop. While this may be partially true, it is also a well known fact that just removing the use of the drug will lead to a condition called white knuckling it. What this means is that once you remove the use of the drug, but don’t change any of the conditions that lead to the drug use in the first place, you will continue to have to deal with the those conditions and issues. In most cases this simply causes another addiction or behavior to replace the one that was stopped. This has become a complaint of many recovering addicts who are not involved in a 12 step program, for while 12 step programs provide tools to help change a person’s attitude and emotions, it requires the person to admit to being powerless over their own behavior, while accepting a belief in god, and requires that a person exchange the behavior of drug use for the behavior of attending 12 step programs for the rest of their lives.
What is needed is a method that can provide a person with the ability to regain power over their behavior, while supplying the same initial benefits of drug use in a quicker and more efficient way, without having to commitment to lifelong 12 step attendance. How can you accomplish this goal?
What I have developed and refined over the last 20 years, from an original tool taught to me at the Northwest School for Clinical Hypnotherapy, is a technique called Emotional Release Therapy.
It works like this; everything that exists is made of energy. You are made of tiny bits of energy, (some people claim it is atoms and molecules, Quantum Mechanics now claim the tiny bits of energy are actually called strings, billions of times smaller than atoms), the clothes you are wearing are made of energy, the air you breath, the chair you are sitting on, even the thoughts you think are made up of electro – chemical bits of energy. In fact we produce energy in our body, and the strongest energy we produce is our feelings. Now think about that, when you walk into a room, how many times can you recall being able to tell if someone where happy, mad, sad, glad, etc., and the person doesn’t have to say a word. You can argue that it is facial expression, body posture, etc., and while these factors play into the event, the fact is that some indefinable quality is alerting you to a person’s emotional state of being. This indefinable quality is the energy that the person is putting out.
To understand this, it is important that you understand that energy vibrates. That means that everything has its’ own vibrational pattern. Your heart vibrates in beats per minute, your brain vibrates in beats per second, the earth vibrates, the air vibrates, electrical currents vibrate, EVERYTHING vibrates.
There is a basic law of physics that cannot be changed, and cannot be broken. That basic law is that vibrations attract vibrations. To demonstrate this I want you to think about the simple tuning fork. If you have a room full of tuning forks and you strike one of the tuning forks, what happens with the rest? The tuning forks that are set to the same frequency will start to vibrate in response to the vibration of the first fork, and slowly other tuning forks will start to shift their own frequency in response to the prevailing frequency.
It is the same effect when you put out a very strong emotional vibration. Think about a time when you were in a room full of people, something happened and all of the people in that room were stressed out or experiencing some form of emotional chaos. Someone then walks into the room and is able to reduce the stress, with their own steady and powerful calming emotions.
We are at the mercy of these oceans of vibrational patterns throughout our entire lives. In fact we are looking at the world through layers of emotional vibrational patterns.
When you are first born, you have no strong emotional attachments, I know that some people well argue that you picked up emotional attachments in the womb, or from our ancestors, DNA, (see the book DNA of Healing by Margaret Ruby 2006 Hampton Road Publishing Company), or even from past lives, but at the moment of birth our brain is a clean slate, and such emotional patterns have not been activated. As you reached out to the world, it is usually because you were wet, hungry, or needed to be held, etc.. You begin creating Neuro Firing Patterns in the brain that produced images that create feelings. These feelings became your guide map of the environment. If, when you were young, you had caregivers who were loving, kind, having a good day, etc. and they responded to you with love and kindness, you began viewing your environment through layers of belief and feelings that told you that things were safe. (Think of each new experience as a layer of colored glass placed over your eyes. Each time you view the world, you see things in a tinted fashion. Right now as you read this article the way in which you are processing it, is based on the color and depth of your layers of colored glass). This same process works in the negative fashion. In other words, if you were treated in a hurtful, angry, less than positive way, you would have emotional patterns, “colored glass” that would tint each new experience with that type of belief system.
We as human beings are programmed for survival. We strive for things that will make us feel better, that will make us feel safer. In most cases the initial use of the drug was to try and loosen these negative emotional vibrational patterns. The first few times that you used your drug of choice you probably did get a feeling of relief and probably did feel much better, but eventually the consequences of the drug use started outweighing the benefits, and in most cases the consequences began creating even new images, new beliefs, and emotional patterns that compounded the old issues. Most people who become chemically addicted began using drugs in this inappropriate self medicating way.
While it is important to stop the use of your drug of choice, it is also important to deal with the initial issue, which, as I have stated, in most cases is the idea that the drug user is looking for a way of feeling better, a way of dealing with the emotional vibrational pattern that is hindering their lives. The emotional vibrational patterns are created by thoughts, or images, in our brains. Feelings are created by thoughts or images in your brain, it has been shown that every thought that you have, has traveled through your body and activated a physiological response. (See research by Dr. Candice Pert, “Molecules of Emotions” by Jon Franklin, 1987 Bantam Doubleday Publishing Group).
What if there was a way to release from the emotional vibrational pattern without using substances, such as alcohol, or other drugs? What if you could detach from the physiology of emotion without having to dredge up every memory, and every event that you have ever encountered in your life?
Emotional Release Therapy provides that ability.
By being inducted into an altered state of consciousness, through hypnosis, a client is then lead into a deeper trance, that swiftly alters, and lowers brainwave patterns activating the healing effects of the deeper alpha state of brain wave patterns.
It has been shown, through a device called and electroencephalogram, the human brain has four patterns of vibrations.
The first pattern is known as the Beta state. In this state, our brain is vibrating at about 15 to 21 cps, (cycles per second). This is considered our waking state of consciousness. In this state we are dominated by our five senses, hearing, vision, taste, touch, and smell. This is the state of consciousness that you are in during most of your waking hours.
The second pattern is known as the Alpha state. In this state our brain is vibrating at about 8 to 14 cps. It is the same state of being that you experience when you are daydreaming, or when you are driving down the road, and can’t recall the last few miles that you have driven. This type of episode is commonly referred to as Highway Hypnosis. Interestingly enough our brains shift into this pattern on the average of ten or more times per day, for about 10 to 15 seconds. It is during these 10 to 15 seconds that the body is going through brief healing periods, trying to correct stress, and other abnormalities in the system.
The third pattern is known as the Theta state. In this state our brain is vibrating at about 4 to 7 cps. It is the pattern you exhibit while you are in deep sleep.
The forth pattern is known as the Delta state. In this state our brain is vibrating at about 1 to 3 cps. This is the pattern a person exhibits while they are in a coma. Not much is known about this state, since generally, if a person comes out of a coma, they don’t recall anything about the experience.
You will notice that each of these states became narrower, and narrower in their frequency band.
The important thing to remember here is that the healing takes place in the alpha state, and while you can be considered in an Alpha state at 14 cps, to experience Emotional Release Therapy, you have to reach a cps of 7 to 8 cps.
Once again, the client is lead into a light state of an Alpha vibrational pattern. This state of altered consciousness is obtained through a focus on the client’s breath, combined with specific guided imagery. Once this state has been reached a specific set of sound waves and tones is used to create conscious panic. After being inducted into the lighter state of Alpha vibrational pattern, the subconscious portion of the brain is more dominate. Then using tones, and sound waves the conscious portion of the brain immediately tries to become more dominate and the brain wave start to return to the Beta level. Due to the fact that the sound waves and tones are undecipherable by the conscious portion of the brain, the conscious brain drops back down into the Alpha state, but instead of the lighter state, it now drops down to the lower pattern of about 7 to 8 cps. (Many clients report that they fell as though they are experiencing a falling sensation.) Once this state is reached the brain begins immediately seeking out stressors and threats to the system, by wiping out the emotional connection to the original memory or images.
The benefit to this system is that the memory is not changed in any way, thus eliminating any problems with created or changed memories, but the emotional impact of the memory is eliminated. This allows the client to have the ability to then look at and deal with the initial image, and recognize that it is simply a thought, an image that has no real power or hold over them.
When a client can use his or her own brain to deal with these uncomfortable feelings, the need to use drugs as a coping mechanism is eliminated, and a swifter recovery path can be obtained.
Emotional Release Therapy is not intended as the only tool during a client’s recovery journey. It can, and does provide an incredibly powerful method that can accelerate, and make the journey safer and easier to take.

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